As an Autistic person, I do not like talking to people. This is especially true when I feel that the conversation is unneeded. Like small talk, or sales people discussing products I just want to buy.
When I want to purchase something, I just want the details so I can make a decision. A sales person has the objective to get me to buy something. The goals are not in line with each other. If the sales person were there to provide details on the product or service, that would be great. It would also be unnecessary because a website or tag attached to the product can do the same thing.
When I hear an advertisement for “$x.xx off”, I instantly do not want that product. It feels like a scam. Tell me what the price is now so I can put it through my brain’s value vs. price computer. If there isn’t an independent source for the pricing, I feel that the salesperson is playing a game to see how much money they can take from me, and that makes me instantly dislike the salesperson.
I want to quietly walk into a store, look at the price, research the item, and then tell the salesperson to do whatever paperwork is needed to get the item out the door. Anything less feels like I am playing a game that I didn’t sign up for and I will remove myself from that game.
The big thing is, I don’t know how to negotiate. I don’t like to negotiate. I am physically incapable of negotiating. My brain literally freezes, and makes the decision that the person is trying to fight me instead of assist me, and that causes me to walk away.
When we purchased the house, everything was on the level. I knew the price of the house, the monthly payments, the amount I would pay by the end of the load. (Big hint for those that have never bought a house, if you finance with a 30 year mortgage, you end up paying over double the sale price.) I accepted these numbers as they were presented because the numbers were acceptable and it was easier than trying to negotiate.
